Dear Well Intentioned White Friends: I Am Not OK

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I’d like to talk about connections.   I mean the connections we have with others, and ourselves. As humans, we crave these connections, even if they aren’t personal. We read books, and connect with characters, we watch movies and fantasize about being one of the stars. Being a part of the team, taking no shit, […]

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Ten Ideas to Improve Your Bench

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The bench press — loved by many, loathed by many! Used right, it’s a great tool for building strength and muscle. Done wrong, and it can hurt you in a hurry! Here’s ten ideas to set you up for your best pain-free bench!

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Mr Nice Guy: Why Nice Isn’t Kind

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 Mr. Nice Guy, that’s me. And it’s a shame, too. Because nice and kind are two different things. And sometimes to be kind, you can’t default to being too nice. Here’s what I mean by that. The difference between nice and kind is that sometimes you want to be nice. You want to go along […]

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Ten Things I Learned From Powerlifting Competition

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During my journey to get lean I wanted to emulate John Grimek — a famous bodybuilder AND weightlifter in the 1930s and 40s. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Grimek He would take part in weightlifting events that were also physique events. He looked great and lifted a ton. I thought that entering into a powerlifting competition once I was lean […]

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Empathy and Otherness

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Both sides of my family are Dutch immigrants who came over to Canada after World War II. Like many immigrants they had to learn a new language and deal with prejudice. Canada’s attitudes towards immigration were different at that time. My Mom sometimes talks about being referred to as a “dirty DP” when she was […]

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Ten Things I Learned From Getting Lean

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I’ve written before about my experiences with bullying. When I started lifting weights it was with the express goal of making myself a physical deterrent to bullying. So I wanted to be big and strong. And that’s the direction I took for many years — eating and training with the goal of size and strength. […]

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Iron Lioness: An Origin Story

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Growing up Stephanie Rosemarie Buchanan was a tough come up.

My parents divorced when I was 5. My Dad took off a few years later. Like most West Indian families (and, from what I hear, other families too), we never talked about feelings. Or, really, anything.

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Increasing Empathy Takes Time

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I was a bit of a chubby kid. I might be winking in this picture but it’s a bit hard to tell. And kids are total dicks cruel. So I found out about the whole being chubby thing at about age 6. Prior to that I just ran around the farm feeling like a normal […]

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